Don’t Kill the Boy

In pursuit of becoming the man, it is important to remember the beauty of the boy, and to integrate him into ourselves of today.

The boy represents joy, innocence, awe, wonder and play. It is the boy that dreams and engages his imagination. The boy is the visionary and creative - the one that draws up the blueprint of a better world for tomorrow.

It is the boy that is connected to his heart and loves with depth, softness and light-hearted playfulness.

The pain of his wounding is still raw and he wishes not to inflict this same pain upon anyone else.

By ‘killing the boy’, we destroy a fundamental part of ourselves and continue the pattern of abandonment from our own fathers that we felt throughout our own childhood.

The boy needs not to be rejected and abandoned any more that he already has been.

The boy that survives inside of all of us needs our softest, warmest and most innocent love and compassion.

He needs to feel safe, seen, heard, and held by the strong, rooted, grounded, mature, wise man that also lives inside of all of us.

True, mature masculinity calls for the integration of all versions of ourselves.

If we ‘kill the boy’, what will we do to our own children when they enter our kingdoms?